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I’m a big believer in The Law of attraction and Manifesting, in fact I believe everything in my life today I have manifested. To celebrate Valentine’s Day, I’m sharing my tips and insights on how to find the perfect partner using this technique. So, if you’re a single lady looking for love, read on!
1. Write List of Qualities
Take some time to think about the qualities you are looking for in a partner. Top of my list? Loyal, generous and supportive. Think of your own and when you’ve written your list, consider each quality and whether you have it yourself. If you don’t, that’s something to work on while you’re waiting for your partner to arrive! Next, think about the type of man you would like to meet, and what kind of activities you would like to do together. This will help you to attract the right person. Don’t focus too much on physical qualities; in my experience, good looking men often come with their fair share of problems. Attracting someone with the emotional qualities you want is a better starting point. Of course, chemistry is key, but relationships that are initially built on trust can lead to great chemistry. It’s easy to write someone off in the first 5 minutes if you don’t feel the spark, but give people time. Some things are non-negotiable, like height or weight, but if you’ve imagined a man that likes playing rugby, you’re unlikely to manifest someone short; and if your idea of happiness is watching films on the sofa eating pizza, it’s unlikely you’ll meet a body builder! I believe there’s someone for everyone, but the clearer you are from the start, the easier this process is. Take your time creating your list, consider it carefully, then edit out the things that are superficial.
2. Create a Vision Board
This is the fun part! Create your Vision Board on Pinterest or use a cork pin-board – I prefer a physical board that I can see all the time. Collect or print out pictures of what you would like to do with your new partner; – places to visit and activities to do, such as a couple having a picnic, walking along a beach, or having dinner. Pick out lots of images and pin them to your board, anything romantic and that makes you feel happy. I also pinned pictures of hearts and roses, the word ‘love’ and things that symbolized romance when I created my board. If your dream is to get married, pin a picture of a dress you would like to wear, or an engagement ring that you love. Next. place your board somewhere visible and where you’ll see it every day, so that it makes you smile every time you look at it. You can always hide it away if friends come round! My friends are used to seeing mine. I use vision boards for all kinds of manifestations. When I first started this blog a year ago, I only had 400 followers on Instagram, so I created a vision board featuring social media influencers, other blogs and images from YouTube. At the time, my friends did laugh, but a year later, I have over 8000 followers on Instagram. I’m not quite Kim Kardashian yet, but I’ve come a long way!
3. Affirmations and Gratitude
One of the most powerful things you can do is to talk about your manifestation as if it were in the present. This ‘energy’ speeds up the process of bringing it to you. Every morning when you wake up, say 5 affirmations of your choice. Adding gratitude to your affirmation is great too. A couple of examples; Thank you for my loyal loving partner, I am in a loving stable relationship. Every evening before you go to sleep, give gratitude for 5 things that day. Being grateful increases your vibration, and it’s important you keep your vibration high when you are attracting a partner and to draw someone really special to you. If you are negative, or over-reactive, your vibration will drop, and you are more likely to attract someone with less attractive qualities. Practicing yoga, meditation, reading self-development books, walking and spending time in green spaces, all help to keep your vibration high.
4. Feng Shui
Feng shui your home. Experts believe you need to make space in your life and your home for a partner. This means clearing space in your diary, as well as physical space around you. If your schedule is absolutely hectic, and you’re rushing out every night to spin class, or your wardrobe is absolutely crammed with clothes, where is the space in your life for your partner? Make time to clear your closet and your drawers, and keep some hangers and even one drawer free for your potential partner to store his belongings. Make space in the bathroom for his toiletries, and start to think of your home as somewhere a partner might like to visit. Stock up on fresh flowers, hide away some of your more ‘girly’ ornaments, or buy some gender-neutral bedding. This was a key exercise for me as I’d lived on my own for many years, and my flat was full of Angel ornaments and pink things. Even though I loved my belongings, when I looked objectively at my home, I realised no straight man would want to sleep in pink, floral bedding surrounded by Angels! So I had a big clear out, and bought more neutral items, including bedding.
I also bought a beautiful Vera Wang picture frame with a love heart on it, and put a picture of a loving couple in it, till I later replaced it with a photo of myself and my partner!
This is such a powerful exercise. When I look back at my old journals, everything I have now is what I used to journal about! Keep a pretty journal by your bed, then start journalling when you wake up. This is the best time of day as your mind is still open, and not bogged down by things that have happened in your day. Spend around 5 minutes while you are still in bed, journalling your dream day. So you could say (always write it in the present) I wake up from a great night’s sleep with my perfect partner, we get up and make some breakfast, go for a run – whatever you think makes a perfect day. Describe it in detail, and really feel the emotions as if you lived this day. This is such a beautiful exercise to start your day with as it gets you in a positive mood. Spend around 5 – 10 minutes journalling your perfect day, then do a 5 minute meditation on it. Do this every morning, you can write the same day over and over again, or you can vary it, but stick to a similar theme. I guarantee you this exercise speeds things up, so be prepared for shifts in your life when you start this!
6. Take Action
You will need to take some kind of action too, whether it’s signing up to a dating app, going somewhere different, or taking up a new hobby. My friend took her puppy to training classes, and met her husband there, so it can happen anywhere, just remain open to meeting someone. If you are the rushing-around type, give yourself one evening a week to relax at home. Take a bath, read a book and gather your thoughts, as being grounded really helps. I can be guilty of always rushing around, so this was a useful exercise for me, helping to remind myself of what I wanted.
I hope these tips have inspired you, and remember, although I manifested my ideal partner, I still ran into problems along the way. There is nobody out there who is perfect – ourselves included! One thing I’ve realised about life is it that it never stands still, things are always moving and flowing, and we just have to move and flow with it!
Happy Valentine’s Day!